People go to swinger events together, and there the possibilities are endless, they can have sex, or maybe they don't. Under no circumstances do you have to have sex with others at the party if you don't want to. Things at these parties are simple enough for many to believe. Yes, at first, new people that arrive can be shy because you step into a new brand world, and it is expected to feel so. The idea is to loosen up and take things as they come. Nice things can happen once you let yourself go and embrace it.